Red Flags: how to prevent a bad relationship

(Note – this applies equally to both sexes. Constantly using he/she and him/her is awkward.) You've met The One. If there ever was a time when emotion overrides intelligence and common sense, this is it. You can't stop thinking about him. Music is playing and angels are singing. He's perfect....

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Marriage Rules by God – To the Wives

The last time we talked about marriage, we talked to the men. We unpacked Ephesians 5:25-33 and looked at how that passage plays out in real life. If you missed that post, read God's Rules for Marriage - to the husbands first! Responsibilities are different. If we were to sum...

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Love languages – the only way?

Disclosure: This post contains affiliate links. Thank you for supporting Cherut Ministries! What are the love languages? Many of us are familiar with Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages. In it, Chapman suggests that there are five ways we give and receive love - gifts, time, words, touch, and...

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The Number One Killer of Relationships

When did you fall in love with your spouse? Some people will say the moment I first saw him/her or the first time we kissed. But for most people, it doesn’t happen that way. For most people, falling in love is something that happens over time. It’s not a one...

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God’s recipe for family

It was a picture perfect family moment. Mom sat writing with their newborn daughter on a blanket at her feet. Their older children were playing together outside, enjoying the brisk fall weather and each other. Dad was watching and playing with them. Grandma had supper cooking in the slow cooker,...

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Love is a verb.

Love is paradoxical. Love is one of those verbs that is both an action and a state of being. A verb is the part of speech that describes the action or activity of the subject. It also describes the state of being. Verbs tell us what things or creatures do...

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What forgiveness means.

What forgiveness means: “Excuse me?” We say this as a polite way of asking someone to let us off the hook for an otherwise impolite action — bumping in to someone, interrupting, a burp (or something else ..) We don’t really apologize for our offensive action, but just acknowledge it’s...

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Are you a “good Christian”?

A good Christian relationship isn't always the best. Most of the people who come to me for temperament counseling are professing Christians, good Christians. They go to church regularly, give generously, read their Bibles often and pray a lot. Good thing, really, because a discussion of how we’re wired wouldn’t...

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Love is .. hard.

Choosing love is hard.  When relationships get broken, when people do things that are mean and hurtful, its incredibly hard to choose the loving thing to do. They say to treat others the way you want to be treated, but choosing love is difficult when you're hurt and angry. I'm...

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